Change is the only constant in life. That’s something we can be absolutely sure about. Sometimes the changes are things we want to change, and other times life hands us events that can be difficult causing the change. Then it’s important to keep hope and continue to look forward. Change and transition happen whether we like it or not.
Often when we are faced with transition, it’s normal to second guess ourselves. Our view of the future can become restricted. Some of those events can happen abruptly, externally, like the loss of a job or the death of someone close to us.
Some life transitions are more internal, things that have been simmering in our minds, changes we have been thinking about making like retirement, career changes, getting married, having children, but just haven’t done it yet or found the “right” time or the “right” way to go about it.
Sometimes we look for opportunities to change and to grow, we are at a crossroad in our lives and just don’t know which direction to turn and the more we look at the situation, the less confident we feel about how to proceed. When shifts and transitions happen it can be terrifying to the point of not being able to move. Often when things happen out of your control, it’s common to feel like you have no choice. You may feel like you don’t know where to go or how to do it. At this point it is important to look outside of ourselves to help expand our thinking. It’s often helpful to access a broader experience or information base when making some of these changes. Asking others for advice is one such way to expand our thinking knowing that asking for advice and taking advice doesn’t mean giving someone else control over our lives, but instead as a way to expand our thoughts and education around potential changes, actually increasing our personal power over our situation. Our perception of life can really help us with change, we can choose to look at a new beginning as exciting. Reviewing regrets and living our lives with regrets doesn’t help us move forward. While regrets make us stuck, it can be important to review what has happened in our lives, be able to acknowledge and take responsibility, because that helps us move forward. Often, we need help to look at the patterns in our life so that we don’t keep making mistakes, taking that faulty thinking into the future, only to have to deal with it again.
As a life coach and an author on change management and motivational interviewing, I employ various tools to help you. This includes many things such as looking at where you are and where you have been. It’s about helping you to get clarity, set goals and then break up tasks up into manageable, doable opportunities. We work together to help you access the skills, information and resources you may need to navigate these changes or life transitions. These skills that are acquired through our sessions are often invaluable in future life changes. After all, change is the only constant in life.
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